27 Sep Road to becoming a trader
Road to becoming a trader
In these series I will mostly rant. I feel ranting for me puts a lot of things into perspective. Also, the mere fact of naming things helps me to clear things up. After which, I can draw my conclusions and take action. These series are going to be about just that. A bunch of redundant words and sentences saying the same thing (see what I did there? 🙂 ) These are changes I need to make in my personal life in order to facilitate my goal of becoming a trader. Changes I feel I already know I need to make but aren’t always easy to follow through on. So let’s start ranting and let’s get going with following our dreams.
Click here for my disclaimer. It basically says that I am on my path to becoming a trader and these are just my opinions on how to approach learning to trade. Feel free to check it out and comment on it. Or not. Up to you really.
Here it goes…
It’s all my fault
In order to follow my dreams I have to make sacrifices. Just today I was watching, my man, Gary Vaynerchuk. For those that don’t know, please check out his ‘rants’ on YouTube. Gary Vee was talking to some kid about how to cut through the shit and just be honest. Honest with what you’re doing and honesty to others. The truth will set you free 🙂 This resonated with me because for a long time I felt out of place with people because I seem to be different. I seem to ‘rub’ them in the wrong way at times, even though I mean well. But meaning well and still having a negative outcome is still a possibility.
Me Me Me!
Me being me thought to change me in order to not be me around people so that me would be more accepted. Until I saw another video by Gary Vee saying that ‘you know what?! FUCK IT!’. This is me. I take that as the following. I know I mean well. I know I fuck up at times at meaning well. But you know what?! Fuck it!. If you are too sensitive to deal with that, that’s OK. I’m gonna do Me. You do You.
Do the GaryVee
This is my way of showing honesty in the things that I am doing and want to do. I understand that in order to become the best me, I have to do and not do certain things. Things that I feel obstruct me the most is, well me. It’s the ‘Me’ that looks at certain factors in a certain way that stand in my way of achieving my goals. So here is the ‘Me’ looking at people and friends.
So let’s talk about friends. A great TV sitcom I enjoyed in some of my formative years. But that’s not what I wanna talk about of course. Often we mistake people that we surround ourselves with for friends. I do have the audacity to speak not just for myself but for you too. There! Take it! Or maybe it’s just that I am too biased because I have such shitty friends. Nah, that’s not it either. It’s just my perception of friends. In order to know what a friend is you need to clarify what that means to you personally. I can’t do that for you, but I can tell you how I look at it. In your life you will probably only have one handful of actual friends. If you are truly blessed, you’ll have two handfuls. I am in my thirties now so take that into consideration. What I mean by true friends is that person that will go beyond him- or herself to help you. Even offer without you asking them. Support you when you need it. Laugh with you. Talk with you. Actually listen to you without judging. All those others are just people you know. People you can hang out with. No problem. Satisfy your group (cough herd) mentality with. No problem. I have that need too at times. But for the most part, it’s just not me. I have always enjoyed being alone. Being alone makes me calm. Makes me feel good because I get to do the things I want to do. Whether it be whatever project I am currently working on or like now, learning to trade. I have never felt the need for a group of friends, although that sitcom ‘Friends’ does make it look really good.
Putting it into perspective
So why am I talking about ‘friends’? I find myself somehow loyal to certain people that actually show no loyalty towards me. This seems to be a recurring theme in my life. I rather have a few good friends here and there then to follow the herd and be good with everyone. Especially when working towards your goals you understand that your time is very limited. Limited means that you have to pick and choose where you spend your time on. I think that’s only fair. It’s just that when you stop seeing people they somehow take it personally. Don’t worry about that. People that can’t see what you are doing is for your own benefit you don’t really need in your life anyway.
Translate into real life
There are certain things I have to do in order to get ahead in achieving my goals. One of them is actively trading during the week. The best times to trade at my location is during Monday till Friday in the evenings from 7 till about midnight. This means I can’t hang out with anyone in those times. Not even with friends. Because my goals supersede my friends in terms of priority. Although there are some special circumstances that need me to change my schedule from time to time. However, they may never be too frequent. Consider it as one cheat day a month.
As always, I hope that someone somewhere learns something from my experiences on the road to becoming a trader. Please share your thoughts, negative or positive, down below or contact me by email.